Many of us have been swimming in the ‘dating pool’ for years
now, and while it’s great for upper body strength, we still
can’t find ourselves ashore with those that are in
relationships. So, let me share with you my Top 10 Dating
Rules, in the hopes that
I’m saving you and reminding myself of all the crap and
confusion involved with dating the opposite s*x.
1.
Leave your wallet in the car. I’m sorry but,
if you’re on a date with a real man, then the man is going to
pay. No, you shouldn’t have to go half on the bill or pay every
other date. Your suitor should always pay or offer to pay,
and if you decide that you wanted to pay for that night, you
may. By no means, am I condoning selfishness, but in these
modern times, there aren’t many gender roles lingering around.
Therefore, your date should be looking for any moment
available to assert himself (be a man.) At the very least, it is a
nice gesture.
2. Keep an open mind. I know, I know. He’s two inches shorter
than you, needs a manicure, and played “We Wish You a Merry
Christmas” with his dinner utensils. Get to know him. Under all
the mess, you may find out he’s a nice guy who missed his
manicure appointment and the short gene skips
a generation in his family. Seriously, there aren’t as many
options as we’d like to hope, so why eliminate the ones who
could become an option.
3. Take mental notes. If possible, remember EVERYTHING that
he says. It is great material in case you need to catch him in a
lie, prepare for future arguments or (necessarily) make quick
judgments so you can get the hell out of dodge. Especially,
when you guys get to the commitment talk, he might want to
throw around that he’s not ready for a relationship, although
you could have sworn on the second date he said he was
‘looking’.
4. Let him plan some of the dates. There’s two reasons: let’s
the man feel like a man and you can observe his character. As
women we love to plan things ( I know I do), and sometimes we
tend to take the leadership role in the relationship. You plan
the date from A to Z, and the man just needs to show up
( and probably, in the outfit you suggested.) Doing this time
after time will either have him relinquish his “power” or be
silently frustrated with you. Also, having him to decide where
to go and what to do, enables you to see how romantic,
spontaneous, or creative he can be. It keeps him vested in the
relationship, rather than just going along with the relationship.
5. Play Around. The more you turn them down and make them
feel inferior, the more they want you and respect you. It’s
sick, but true. Of course, I’m not saying you should literally
treat him like an ugly step child, but I do suggest treating him
like he is expendable. If you want the upper hand in the dating
field, this is how you do that. Don’t always jump to answer his
calls, let him wonder what you are doing. When he wants to
take you out, let him know you’ll be available after you ‘check
your schedule’. In this sense, playing around kind of means,
being emotionally unavailable. The moment a guy senses that
you are needy or desperate, he will be running the other
direction.
So, treat him like crap, and he’ll be running towards you.
6. Don’t get too comfortable, too fast. It’s only been two
months, so what happened to the miniskirts, the carefully,
careless hair and sweet perfume. Now you ’fashion’ the
messy ponytail, your house clothes became your going out
clothes, and the only scent he smells is the farts that trail
from your behind. Throughout any relationship, you
have to try to keep things fresh. Remind him every now and
then, why he chose to date you in the first place. As soon as
he forgets, he’s searching for the next new and cute lady
within in reach.
7. Don’t plan the wedding. Yes, he’s gorgeous, he’s funny, and
he works! You’ve known him for two weeks and he hasn’t
pissed you off yet. Great, but don’t pick your wedding
song,just yet. I can line up 4 presumably great guys, and still
wouldn’t be able to guarantee that at least one of them was
your future husband. Dating is never that easy. I definitely
wouldn’t suggest jumping into every date hoping that this one
is your groom. Take your time and see where it goes, so that
if this one turns out to be a dud it won’t crush you too much.
8. No s*x!!! s*x blinds the man and confuses the lady. When you
take s*x out of the present agenda, you see each other eye
to eye, not pelvis to pelvis. We’re adults and we know how
good s*x is and how hard it is not to have s*x. However, avoid
being alone together, near a bed or couch if you can’t handle
the pressure. Go out and get to know each other.
9. Date one guy at a time. Dating one man at a time, will allow
you to concentrate and find out if he is one loser.
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