Monday 29 July 2013

FBI Rescues 105 Children From Prostitution In ‘Operation Cross Country’

The FBI says it has rescued 105 children who were forced
into prostitution in the United States and arrested 150
people it described as pimps and others in a series of raids in
76 American cities.
The campaign, known as “Operation Cross Country,” was the
largest of its type and conducted under the FBI’s “Innocence
Lost” initiative.
The assistant director of the FBI’s criminal investigative
division, Ron Hosko, said that child prostitution remains what
he called a “persistent threat” to children across America.
Most of the freed youths are young teenagers aged 13 to 16,
Mr Hosko said.
“Our goal is that child trafficking is openly discussed,” he told
reporters.
“We are trying to take this crime out of the shadows and put
a spotlight on it… to put them (the children) out of the cycle.”
The FBI said the campaign has resulted in rescuing 2700
children since 2003.

5 Things Every Undergraduate Should Know About Employment

Unemployment remains a huge problem in Nigeria. Every year
Nigerian universities continue to churn out thousands of new
graduates with freshly minted diplomas who join a competitive
job market with bleak employment prospects. If you are among
the 25 percent of unemployed Nigerians or perhaps one of
the approximately 45 percent of working age Nigerians who
have given up hopes of finding a job in a job market that
seems to be tilted in favor of the connected and returnees
with shiny diplomas, questionable accents, and exotic work
experiences from abroad, here are five things you should
know:
Think Global
Now is not the time to begrudge the rich and fortunate who
can afford to travel abroad for work and educational
purposes. Just because you come from a poor or middle class
socioeconomic background does not preclude you from
opportunities abroad. In today’s hyper connected global
landscape, what you know is more important than where you
come from or your socioeconomic background. Take advantage
of globalization and develop a global mindset.
A global mindset in the employment context is about developing
your skills and applying them wherever they are needed
around the world. For example, are you an unemployed Political
Science and policy graduate who grew up in the North and
who have mastered the cultural factors and dynamics that
influence behavior and day to day living in the North? While a
bank or oil company in Victoria Island may not necessarily value
this in you, your perspective may be invaluable to an
International Development agency somewhere around the
world that is focused on resolving the conflict in Northern
Nigeria and other African countries undergoing similar
challenges as the North.
Similarly, are you fluent in Arabic? As a bilingual Nigerian, your
English and Arabic skills maybe highly appreciated by a U.S.
contractor in the United States or the Middle East. There are
many instances where the skills we take for granted in Nigeria
are actually appreciated around the world. Rather than sinking
deeper into the pool of unemployment in Nigeria, broaden your
horizons by thinking about how your skills may be applied
beyond the shores of Nigeria. Think about teaching English in
countries with emerging economies, such as Brazil and China.
Most of these English teaching jobs will usually have a
preference for people from the United States, the UK,
Canada, and Australia; however once you can demonstrate
that you know English just as well, you also have a fair shot at
these jobs. Apply for fellowships and programs such as the
Atlas Corps, which provides work opportunities in the United
States to individuals from around the world. Take advantage
of the aging populations in many countries and apply for
skilled jobs in these countries. Some countries with aging
populations are seeking qualified people to join their
workforce and pay taxes.
Update Your Skills and Competencies
Just because you are unemployed is not a reason to set your
alarm clock to 10:00am every morning. You have to do what
you can to improve your chances of landing your next
employment opportunity. And updating your skills set does
just that. If there is any benefit to being unemployed, it is the
time it allows you to do things you may otherwise not have
time to do when you have a job. Now is the time to get that
professional certification you have been putting off, return
to school for a graduate degree or certificate program, and
learn skills that will distinguish you from other job applicants.
Learn to Tell Your Story
An engaging C.V or resume and clear cover letter is the key.A
common mistake most job applicants make is to underestimate
the power of a good CV and cover letter. Your CV and cover
letter is your ticket to landing an interview and a potential job.
It also represents your brand. The secret to writing a
powerful CV and cover letter that would make recruiters
remember you, even after reading hundreds of other CVs and
cover letters, is to think about your brand and the value it
represents. Don’t just list all your past places of employment
and job description or few assignments and chores you did
there. Instead, write about how whatever you did added value
to the organization. Remember that you don’t need to have
had the fanciest title or position. It all depends on how you sell
it on your CV and cover letter. When writing your CV and
cover letter, establish a clear link between whatever you did
and the bottom line of the business. Show your impact.
Consider an example of a secretary whose only responsibility
was to pick up coffee for a physician in private practice.
Although her tasks may seem menial, such a secretary can
show her value on her CV by explaining how the coffee she
sourced enabled the physician to stay alert and perform more
than two surgeries a day. And by performing more than two
surgeries a day the organization brought in X amount of
money. She can also explain that by bringing in coffee every
day, she enabled the physician to concentrate fully on
patients, provide the best patient care, and increase
patients’ satisfaction. In this example, the secretary has
shown how her role contributed to the bottom line.
Think Outside the 9-to-5 Box
Don’t be ashamed of unprofessional jobs. At one point or
another, we have all been guilty of tying our self-esteem to
our jobs. And so when we suddenly find ourselves unemployed
without a traditional 9-to-5 professional job, our self-
esteem plunges, and then we vigorously look for another 9-
to-5 job. Our society has typically regarded bankers,
doctors, lawyers, telecommunication workers, and oil
company employees with a lot more respect than individuals in
other professions. But here’s the deal: there is a lot of value
and learning opportunities that can be gleaned from
nonprofessional jobs that can help you get your next
professional job. The financial rewards and respect may be
minimal, but your professional growth would be enormous. For
instance, by selling goods as little as recharge cards and even
pure water, a person can learn highly valuable and sought-
after skills such as customer service, interpersonal skills, and
supply-chain management. Moreover, the experience provides
good information and answers for behavioral interviews in
which recruiters ask for specific life examples or situations
of when you exhibited certain skills and capabilities. Again, it all
depends on how well you are able to articulate these skills on
your CV. and cover letter, and how you can translate the
lessons learned from a nonprofessional job into a professional
situation.
Volunteer and Make a Difference in Your
Community
Volunteering helps to keep the mind engaged and it can be a
potential differentiator between job candidates. When a
recruiter is presented with two identical job candidates, the
person who has volunteered and made a difference would be
preferred over the person who remained idle and done nothing
since being unemployed. Volunteering can also help you shake
off the self-pity, shame, and laziness that unemployment
sometimes forces upon people. Rather than eating Nkwobi,
drinking stout, and complaining to friends about how hard it is
to find a job in Nigeria, get up and start making a difference in
your community. Something as little as cleaning your street can
snowball into a nonprofit or nongovernmental organization.
Don’t underestimate what you can achieve simply by getting
started.
So there you have it. These five tips should get you moving
towards your next opportunity.

Shame: Ghanaian Actress Emelia Brobbey Arrested In London For Stealing

Famous Ghollywood actress Emelia
Brobbey has been locked up in a prison cell for stealing a piece
of bracelet jewelry while shopping during her vacation in
London.
Reports say the chubby talented
actress was unaware that hidden security cameras at the
store caught her stealing the bracelet.
Immediately she tried exiting the mall a beep in the security
sensors alerted the people around her.
The mall security behind the camera who have been monitoring
her came out to ensure her arrest.
Police officials were called in and she was asked to provide
her address which happened to be the residence of fellow
actress Gloria Agyeman.
Police immediately raided the home
of the ‘thief’ actress’s host, Gloria.
The raid led to the arrest of another actress Eunice Akua
Adjeiwaa whose Visa expired months ago and wasi mmediately
arrested.
Eunice is set to be deported back
to Ghana while Emelia Brobbey who caused the whole wahala
is set to leave London today after she was given an immediate
departure order from the UK.
Choi, see disgrace!!!

Why Jude Okoye Is Not Yet Married


In a one on one chat session, businessman and elder brother to the
electrifying duo P-Square explained why he is still single.
So, when are you kicking bachelorhood?
When I will kick bachelorhood, I will call you and my fans to
come and eat and drink. Already, I have purchased the bell,
when it’s time, I will ring it.
Why is it taking so long, on a more serious note?
It’s taking so long because I am waiting for you people.
Basically, why I am not yet married is that I don’t want to get
married because I have all it takes to marry or because I am
ripe. I want to get married and feel married so that I will be
committed to my wife.

#ChildNotBride: Ice Prince – “That’s dumb and stupid”

Chocolate city rapper and BET Award winner, Ice Prince, just
recently returned to Nigeria after weeks in the U.S.
When the rapper got news of the #ChildNotBride campaign,
Ice Prince stated that it was dumb for Child marriage to be
legalized in Nigeria now or at any point in the future.
‘I heard about it on the internet, for real? d**n,
that’s dumb, I’m sorry, that’s straight up dumb‘,
Ice Prince said.
‘If you are that man that got married to that kid,
you’re stupid, sorry’,

S*x Secrets: The Number One Thing Women Want In Bed

Agreed, we all want different things in our s*xual
lives, but research has revealed one common thing
women truly want.
And that is Emotional Intimacy.
During a survey of over 1,000 women, each woman was
asked about their best s*x. 96 percent of the women
revealed that the best s*x they have ever had was with
someone with whom they are emotionally connected.
Other reasons women (and even sometimes men) gave for
enjoying s*x include “being with someone I love,” followed by
“feeling good about my s*xual abilities” and “when my partner
compliments me.”
So what are the top three things women crave? The survey
reveals that the top three requirements for great s*x are
physical attraction, emotional intimacy and feeling secure and
loved.
This also laid credence to the survey conducted by Durex
which revealed that 87 percent of women said the hottest
s*x they’d ever had was with someone they knew and
trusted, and 95 percent of men said s*x is more fulfilling with
an emotional connection.
So it seems the best way to get into a woman’s panties is
through her heart.
Source: Huffington Post

Great Tips To Enjoy Your Courtship!!!

The courtship period is the time to decide about your marriage
with the chosen partner. This is the only time where you can
create or leave impressions of your partner on yourself and
of yours on your partner. When a couple is gently uncovering
the layers of each other’s personality, they should be a little
careful. Read on to know more and follow the tips to have a
successful courtship:
1. Open Mind and Unbiased opinions
Initiate your courtship period with a clear open mind. Avoid
forming a biased or prejudiced view of your partner. You will
surely be welcomed with many pleasant surprises while
getting to know your partner better at the same time.
2. Spend quality time together
Take out enough quality time for each other. Spending time
together would help you in exploring your partner’s
temperament, behaviour, interests, etc. directly or indirectly.
Asking too many questions can become a little boring and even
uncomfortable at times, so, try observing each other. You may
observe his/ her behaviour while driving on a busy road, while
placing order at a crowded restaurant, while shopping in a
busy market or while talking about general issues.
3. Don’t be on a fault finding spree
If your focus is on trying to see the negatives of the other
person, you will obviously find uncountable. Remember two
things: ‘Nobody is perfect’ and ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the
beholder’. A couple has to always accept each other as they
are to make the relationship work successfully. Two people
with differences in their personalities can still make a happy
great couple.
But, do make sure, it is not an investigation period instead the
most cherished one. Keep it beautiful and enjoy it fully. Take a
wise decision and have a happy life

[Advice Needed] She Wants To Dump Me Because I Am Over-Weight!! What Do I Do?

Dear nikkyamebo,
She is always complaining about my weight…. Yea, I know I am
fat, but I am not overweight. She even threatened to break
off from the relationship if I don’t shed some of my fat. I have
tried doing this, but I ended up having ulcer. What should I do
for her not to abandon me?
Tayo.
Dear Tayo,
I understand you are trying to please your girlfriend, but not
at the expense of your health. If your girlfriend would not
accept you for whom you are, then you should let her go…..
You don’t have to go the extra miles for someone to accept
you…. Someone who would love you for you would come
around.
Wish you well,
nikky

Kindly drop ur comment/advice

Eczema; Causes, Signs And Symptoms, Treatments And Prevention.

What is eczema?
Eczema is a general term for many types of skin inflammation
(dermatitis). The most common form of eczema is atopic
dermatitis (sometimes these two terms are used
interchangeably). However, there are many different forms of
eczema.
Eczema can affect people of any age, although the condition
is most common in infants, and about 85% of those affected
have an onset prior to 5 years of age. Eczema will
permanently resolve by age 3 in about half of affected
infants. In others, the condition tends to recur throughout life.
People with eczema often have a family history of the
condition or a family history of other allergic conditions, such
as asthma or hay fever. Atopic dermatitis is believed to belong
to a group of related diseases including food allergy, asthma,
and allergic rhinitis that tend to develop in sequence,
suggesting that atopic dermatitis early in life may lead to or
predict later allergic diseases. The nature of the link between
these conditions is inadequately understood. Up to 20% of
children and 1%-2% of adults are believed to have eczema.
Eczema is slightly more common in girls than in boys. It occurs
in people of all races.
Eczema is not contagious, but since it is believed to be at least
partially inherited, it is not uncommon to find members of the
same family affected.
What are eczema symptoms and signs in babies, children, and
adults?
Eczema most commonly causes dry, reddened skin that itches
or burns, although the appearance of eczema varies from
person to person and varies according to the specific type of
eczema. Intense itching (pruritus) is generally the first
symptom in most people with eczema. Sometimes, eczema
may lead to blisters and oozing lesions, but eczema can also
result in dry and scaly skin (xerosis is the medical term for dry
skin). Repeated scratching may lead to thickened, crusty skin
(lichenification).
While any region of the body may be affected by eczema, in
children and adults, eczema typically occurs on the face,
neck, and the insides of the elbows, knees, and ankles. In
infants, eczema typically occurs on the forehead, cheeks,
forearms, legs, scalp, and neck.
Eczema can sometimes occur as a brief reaction that only
leads to symptoms for a few hours or days, but in other
cases, the symptoms persist over a longer time and are
referred to as chronic dermatitis.
Treatment
Use of corticosteroid cream
Use of Ketoconazole drugs
Use of corticosteroid cream
Can eczema be prevented?
While there is no cure for eczema, you can take steps to
manage your symptoms and lessen the severity of outbreaks.
Such measures include
1. avoidance of over-bathing;
2. applying moisturizer frequently, especially after bathing;
3. bathing in warm, not hot, water and using a mild soap;
4. limiting or avoiding contact with known irritants like soaps,
perfumes, detergents, jewelry, environmental irritants, etc.;
5. wearing loose-fitting clothing (cotton clothing may be less
irritating for many people than wool or synthetic fibers);
6. the use of cool compresses to help control itching;
7. avoiding foods that cause allergic reactions;
8. exercise, meditation, or other stress-management
techniques can help those for whom stress is a trigger;
9. wearing protective gloves for activities that require
frequent submersion of the hands in water;
10. avoiding activities that make you hot and sweaty as well
as abrupt changes in temperature and humidity;
11. using a humidifier in both winter (when the heating dries
the atmosphere) and in the summer (if air conditioning is used
because it depletes the moisture in the air);
12. maintaining cool temperatures in sleeping areas, because
heat can lead to sweating that worsens itching and irritation;
13. practising good skin hygiene even when you are not having
symptoms.

5 Everyday Things That Clean Your Skin

Go ahead and try these natural skin care treatments for a
flawless and affordable solution to blemishes and dull skin
The only thing as annoying as dull, oily skin and pimples? Opt
for a more natural
solution, and try using these everyday skin care treatments.
1. Oatmeal
If you’re looking for a quick pick-me-up that will leave you
feeling and looking better, give yourself an oatmeal facial.
Combine 1/2 cup hot — not boiling — water and 1/3 cup
oatmeal. After the water and oatmeal have settled for two or
three minutes, mix in 2
tablespoons plain yogurt, 2 tablespoons honey, and 1 small
egg white. Apply a thin layer of the mixture to your face, and
let it sit for 10-15 minutes. Then rinse with warm water. (Be
sure to place a metal or plastic
strainer in your sink to avoid clogging the drain with the
granules.)
2. Powdered Milk
Here’s another way to give yourself a fancy spa facial at
home. Make a mask by mixing 1/4 cup powdered milk with
enough water to form a thick paste. Thoroughly coat your
face with the mixture, let dry completely, then rinse with
warm water. Your face will
feel fresh and rejuvenated.
3. Mouthwash
An antiseptic mouthwash makes a wonderful astringent for
cleansing your face. Check the ingredients to make sure it
does not contain sugar, then use as follows. Wash your face
with warm, soapy water and rinse. Dab a cotton ball with
mouthwash and
gently wipe your face as you would with any astringent. You
should feel a pleasant, tingling sensation. Rinse with warm
water followed by a splash of cold water.
Your face will look and feel clean and refreshed.
4. Lemons
Clean and exfoliate your face by washing it with lemon juice.
You can also dab lemon juice on blackheads to draw them out
during the day. Your skin should improve after several days of
treatment.
5. Epsom Salts
Here’s a surefire way to dislodge blackheads: Mix 1 teaspoon
Epsom salt and 3 drops iodine in 1/2 cup boiling water. When
the mixture cools enough to stick your finger in it, apply it to
the blackhead with a cotton
ball. Repeat this three or four times, reheating the solution if
necessary. Gently remove the blackhead and then dab the area
with an alcohol-based astringent

7 Simple Steps To Overcome Lust

Feeling unable to resist the urge
to lust after someone or after a
few? Overcoming lust is a
personal choice to make; it’s not
something that can be imposed
upon you or that you can simply
switch off. Rather, you’ll need
to work at a result that
distracts, replaces, or softens
your lustful thoughts. Here are
some approaches that should work for you
1.
Consider what lust gets you over like and love. Lust is a
fleeting feeling, one that wants to be satisfied immediately
without a thought for the future. Liking and loving a person
are longer term notions, requiring you to address commitment
and respect for the person you’re interested in. Do you want
to spend most of your time making fleeting, shallow relations
with great people or do you want to take the time to get to
know the other person better and connect with them
genuinely? The choice is yours.

2. Have respect for yourself. If you allow lust to be the driver
in your daily relations with others, you’re not connecting fully
with yourself. You are allowing your bodily desires to
determine who you are and how you behave, rather than
letting your mind and personality do some of the thinking.
3. Spend less time looking at imagery that promotes lust.
p****graphy, TV shows which portray men and women as
only sexually attractive to one another, novels filled with
graphic romances, etc., are all ways to increase a sense that
lust is a normal way of relating when, in reality, it’s only a
small portion of life that needs to be tamed.

4. Devote yourself to a real passion. Find what you love doing
and throw your lust into that instead. Become a business
person, a healer, a guru, a politician, whatever drives you and
divert your lustful energies into creating great messages and
energies to create and spread your passion instead.
5. Anchor yourself by hanging around with real people and not
starlets and bimbos. Real people are just as beautiful, only
they don’t feel a need to attract the gaze and flaunt it
because they’re already comfortable in their own skin.
6. Quit flirting with everybody. Flirting with the one person
you’re really keen to make a better, longer term connection
with is fine but don’t let this stay a habit with all and sundry.
Flirting isn’t a method of everyday communication – it can
terrify some potentially great friends, employees, clients, etc.
right away – think about that!
7. Turn to your faith. If you follow a faith, there will be plenty
of guidance to draw on for overcoming lustful thoughts. Find
the relevant texts and apply these to your life on a regular
basis. Talk to a priest or adviser in your religion if you need
more advice and support.

For the Love of Nigeria! Let’s Kick Out Tribalism

Tribalism is not just a state but also a way of life, that stem
from a strong feeling of identity with and strong loyalty to
one’s own tribe. As I have grown and matured through the
years, I must say of all the problems plaguing my Dear
country Nigeria I feel tribalism is one of the worst and I
believe it is the father of almost every other problem in
Nigeria.
I have chosen to address the problem tribalism because two
to three years ago, it never really seemed like a serious
issue. But, it’s beginning to be perpetuated by the youths in
the younger generation both the educated and the
uneducated on and off the social networks. In the fight
against tribalism, I call on the government, the religious
(Christian, Islamic and traditional) institutions and most importantly
the family to help fight it. We need to fight tribalism for the benefit
of Nigeria’s development economically, socially and politically and
fight it fast because it seems more like a disease which when
unattended leads to the death of its carrier.
In Nigeria, it seems like politics cannot be played without tribalism
been involved-they go hand in hand. For most of the political
parties seem to lean more to tribal lines and because we have a
burly predispositions towards our tribesmen, eradicating tribalism
using political tools is looking more and more like a mission impossible
– Tribalism affects the unity of a nation in a way that the
allegiance of to the nation is first given to the tribes. I love my tribe
but I love my Nation more than any other thing. I see myself as a
Nationalist as most of our founding fathers were, as opposed to a
tribesman which does not benefit the nation. If every Nigerian
either elected or selected into any office of power no matter how
small decides to become more of a nationalist than tribalist then we
as a people would be on the way to attaining victory over
corruption.
No one is born a tribalist rather the idea of tribalism (consciously or
unconsciously) is implanted in the head of a child by mostly both his
parents and relatives. The family plays a huge role in the
stereotyping of other tribes. Tribalism is passed onto children by
words of the mouth even when in most cases; the statements are
just a figment of our imaginations. So, by the time this children
grow up they think tribe A are lazy, while tribe B practice juju a lot
or tribe C are thieves. You have instances whereby they say tribe
D have very possessive men while women in tribe E are not faithful
and would disappear with your kids. A friend of mine once said he
likes me as a brother but hates my tribe and I responded saying; If
you hate what I represent then you hate me and how do you
expect me to be comfortable with you without having the fear of
been stereotyped. It is believed tribal parents cannot raise non-
tribal children-I beg to differ! If truly you want to see this country
move forward, kindly watch what you say to your children about
other tribes because in your bid to do the right thing, you might just
we spreading more ignorance… Thank you very much. The idea that
since we have a couple of friends from other tribes who do not
take our little tribalist comments seriously then it is not a big deal is
wrong because word turn into actions and by the time we get into
political offices then we might end up practicing fully fledged
tribalism.
We all must work together keeping in mind how both the civil war
and various military regimes set us backward. The same set of
people who almost destroyed this country as military leaders are
the same ones trying to come back to power. Why? No one has
been able to give a far good enough legitimate reason as to why
they want to return to power. Isn’t it obvious enough that there is
still bad blood amongst them, no thanks to tribalism been a major
factor and such can lead to the break-up of Nigeria. I am quite
sure that our founding fathers who were true nationalists are not
willing to see a divided Nigeria but as it seems, with more and more
issues hitting up we can only hope and pray this problem doesn’t
lead to an uncontrollable situation by the next general elections by
the year 2015.
The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a maxim, ethical code or
morality that essentially states either of the following:
• (Positive form of Golden Rule): One should treat others as one
would like others to treat oneself.
• (Negative form of Golden Rule): One should not treat others in
ways that one would not like to be treated (also known as the
Silver Rule).
If only we can live by this rules the issue of tribalism would stop
been an obstacle in the development of Nigeria.
“We cannot trample upon the humanity of others without devaluing
our own. The Igbo, always practical, put it concretely in their
proverb Onye ji onye n’ani ji onwe ya: “He who will hold another
down in the mud must stay in the mud to keep him down.” – Chinua
Achebe.g

Tuesday 9 July 2013

Secrets from men: 7 things that will make a man refuse to marry you


If a man is going through things,
  he wants
  to believe his woman has his back through
thick and thin. You want to feel beautiful,
he wants to feel like a king.
My male friends and I were talking the other day
about marriage. We don’t talk about it the way
women do, fantasizing and getting all excited
about our wedding day.
 Instead, we talk about it
like picking a career – you know you’re going to be
stuck with it, it can be enjoyable, but you had better
tread lightly or
it could end up in disaster.
I thought I’d share with women a few
things that my friends said we did NOT want in a
wife. Take it or leave it, but here’s what most of us
really do dislike:
1) A high-maintenance woman.
 It might be
okay to be a little bit of a gold digger, but high
maintenance means that nothing is ever good
enough. You buy her something that costs $1,000
dollars, she barely says thank you. She might also
be the kind of emotional black hole who is never
satisfied or happy no matter what he says or does
to make things better. That’s draining for men,
and flat out horrible.
2) A woman who is bad with kids.
A woman’s
beauty is captured in her ability to nurture. The
woman who says “I hate kids” is seen as less of a
woman in the eyes of a lot of men. It also makes
her look selfish.
3) A woman who doesn’t support you.
 If a
man is going through things, he wants to believe
his woman has his back through thick and thin.
You want to feel beautiful, he wants to feel like a
king. If he’s ridiculed or his dreams aren’t
supported, then he will probably gravitate toward
the woman who helps boost his ego, listens to him
and encourages him, just like his mother used to
do.
4) A woman who emasculates you or
doesn’t respect gender roles:
Feminism is
nice, but a lot of hardcore feminists are either gay
or single. You can have power in your household
and still allow the man to be a man. If you’re
constantly ordering him around or not respecting
his manhood, then he will feel that you don’t need
him. So, the strong, independent woman who
“don’t need no man” may lose her man because he
is convinced that she “don’t need him” just like she
said.
5) Bad in the bedroom.
 If you ask a man what
time it is, he’s probably going to say, “It’s sexx
o’clock.” Men are physical creatures, and good
loving can make a man do pretty much whatever
you want. But being frigid, disinterested,
unenthusiastic or not concerned about his physical
needs will make other women look that much more
inviting. He definitely won’t want to lock himself
into a relationship with you, that’s for sure. It
would be miserable for him.
6) Doesn’t get along with your family.
 No
man wants to bring home a woman that his family
hates; she becomes like a virus. Smile, be nice, be
helpful, try to get along with everyone if you can
and that makes him envision you as a regular
visitor to his family gatherings. If you can’t do that,
then find another man with a better family.
7) Really mean and overly moody/b_tchy.
Most of my friends hate women who don’t smile or
are always mad about everything. It sucks. A
smiling woman who listens to his problems, tells
him that he’s special, has his back and drops it
ferociously in the bedroom can get him hooked.
You want to be that woman.
Take it or leave it, this is what we said.
 What you
do with this information is entirely up to you

Does the Fire of Teenage Love Die with Maturity?



There
you are, on the brink of puberty, experiencing the first of firsts.
The act of crushing alone is enough for you. Is it the hearts and
swirls you adorn around your beloved’s name or the hours of
sharing the details of your profound love to your BFFs? Yours is a
love unfettered by time constraints or moral compatibility.
Fast forward to 17 years later and although the thrill remains, it
brings with it a spell of questions, anxieties and soul searching.
What was once a seemingly easy thing to do is now laced with the
wisdom of words such as “He’s not that into you” “Guard your
heart” “Don’t cast your pearls before swine” and countless Google
searches of whether his behavior is acceptable. After all, you no
longer draw hearts and swirls…you sign checks and pay bills.
Here you are on the verge of adulthood with your life in your hands.
That the genetic outcome of your children is halfway dependent on
your choice of partner is a sobering thought on its own. Past all
that lovey dovey “it’s about the way he makes me feel” rhetoric,
do you ever think how this decision will affect your future
generation, your future family dynamics, your values and ideals?
Because I do.
This here is my question; does love become a practical thing as we
approach 30? Or are we allowed to become 13 again, embracing
the thrill of infatuation and a free-spirited approach to love. Are
we obliged to think about genotypes and bank accounts in lieu of
physical attraction and playfulness?
I wonder sometimes how dull it would’ve been if we did that as 13
year-olds. Eying the boy across the hall because he was the logical
choice and not because we were thrilled about the uncertainty
that lay ahead. Do these requirements we create as adults make
things duller now? Are childhood sweethearts in a better position
than us single 30-year-olds? Never having to worry about the
aforementioned as they slip into a synchronized adult version of
themselves?
While I have these questions, I also have some musings. Maybe it’s
okay that we can be practical, that we can evaluate the trail of
relationships in the past (or lack thereof) and decide on what we
want. Some people call it courtship; the act of going into a
relationship with the intent of long-term commitment. In this case
the two parties discover from the get go that they are compatible
enough to consider marriage and work together to make it work —
practical love, so to speak. So even though the 13 year old thrill
seeker in me would like to just go with the flow, a part of me is
curious about the wiser option.
I’d like to know your thoughts. Do you believe in “practical love” or
is it just a euphemism for settling for the closest catch? Are you
open to the uncertain possibilities around you? This goes out to
married folks as well, what words of wisdom can you impart on us
singles?

Five tips to improve your sleep

Ever heard of beauty sleep? Yea, that’s exactly what it means.
Sleep is an essential part of our lives, as without sleep, we won’t
be able to live properly, because most of the live-saving activities
take place during the sleeping stage. However, to get a good sleep
in the age of information technologies, that are getting
everywhere – is a fantasy for almost everybody. Today, we are
going to discuss several techniques and tips which will help you to
get a good sleep.
Improve your sleeping habits!
How many times do you wake up in the night, or how many hours do
you lie quietly wide awake, but unable to sleep? Or perhaps you do
get some sleep, however, after you get up, you still feel tired?
Well, these are certainly the reasons behind your health issues.
Now, most people run to their doctors searching for the
prescription medicines that will take you to the wonderland of
sleep – however, there are other ways! So here are simple tips on
getting some healthy sleeping habits!
1. Routine
Well, certainly, it might sound really frustrating to some rebels –
but whether you like or you don’t – routine is the best way to go if
you experience trouble with sleeping. This means that your body
gets accustomed to go to sleep at the same time, at the same
place. There are even certain rituals that everyone of us has –
rituals that we perform before we go to sleep.
2. Regular exercises
As it turns out, exercises are good for every aspect of our lives
even when we are sleeping. As suggested by some therapists,
exercising in the morning will improve your tonus and will certainly
help you to fall asleep in the evening. It is also suggested to
exercise in the morning rather than in the evening.
3. Be careful with what you eat and drink
During the daytime, you probably drink coffee or tea, and of
course you eat.
However, it is important to remember that what you eat and drink
play an important role on your organism. So, if you drink too much
liquid – your body would be forced to wake every two hours.
Likewise, coffee and tea affect our nervous system, so no
wonder that you can’t sleep!
4. Nap times
If you feel like you need to take a nap, limit the time of napping to
minimum. Do it like cats – they sleep around 20 minutes in brief!
5. Take it slowly!
Last advice for those who can’t fall asleep – don’t rush things
before going to bed. It is important to slow down your activity
before bed time, because this way your organism adapts and gets
some time to accustom. Enjoy your sleep!