A boy is attracted to girls. A man
is attracted to women. Now,
this has nothing to do with the
actual age of a person. I’m
referring to maturity, life vision
and stage of life. In fact, some
people regardless of their age,
will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman
won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa.
This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also
apply if you switch the genders as well.
If
you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls.
However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth
and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an
able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your
psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t
spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers:
1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry,
she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her
way with her parents. This often consists of screaming,
pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive, aggressive
and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being
upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding
versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and
communicates clearly what is bothering her.
2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people
should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is
owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A
woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not
expectations (what she projects on to others).
3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of
value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her
looks and se*uality, that she uses this as her primary tool to
get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is
beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her
intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her
contributions, her humanity.
4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman
plans to be financially independent — she banks on… herself.
And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where
it makes sense for her partner to be the primary
breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life
line.
5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She
competes and will even tear down another in order to secure
resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows
that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high
road of integrity to get what she wants.
6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is
proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman
understands that being domestic is not a duty, but
understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and
others. She also understands that in the event she wants to
create a family, having a person in the household who can
contribute domestically is important.
7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl
wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by
one.” -anonymous
8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet
understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s
important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she
shares it with.
9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human
she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the
vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and
what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral
compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities
above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist
may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over six feet tall,
rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High
integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally
available…
Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to
know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed
a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset.
However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from
the beginning is this:
11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.
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