Very few things in life leave me
perplexed. Having been forced to grow up quickly, I take a lot of things
in my stride. Nothing is really new under the sun- just the perspective
with which you view it. So, when my friend buzzed me to inform me of
her latest conundrum it was really funny and interesting.
Here’s the gist. Her friend, Molade
recently got engaged and she was super excited for her (as 21st century
girls get when they see a huge or not so huge rock on their
friend’s finger.) So what’s the problem? Well, Molade’s affianced one
used to be the boyfriend of another friend named Ngozi. In fact, Ngozi
and Emeka dated for almost 7 years. You know, one of those relationships
where people start asking them annoyingly ”When are we
coming to eat rice now?” . Everybody and their Momma knew Ngozi and
Emeka. Christmas parties, family picnics, weddings, class reunions –
they were always together! Anyway they broke up and not long after,
Emeka and Molade start dating. Not very long after, he proposes to
Molade.
My friend then buzzes me saying, “I
don’t know whether to be excited for Molly or be sad for Ngozi. I’m
confused” I said, what’s there to be confused about? Your friend is
engaged, besides she didn’t “steal” Emeka from Ngo. She had no part in
the dissolution of the union.
Often times, there’s the issue of how to
behave when an ex has moved on. There’s the awkward disposition here
and there. Someone’s pretending like they’ve gotten over the hurt, or
someone’s trying to show that they’re actually in a better position post
the break up…. but nobody thinks of the mutual friend.
Whose side should she be on? Where
should her loyalties lie? Should she hold the hands of the person who
has just found out that her long term boyfriend has not only moved on
but is getting married, or should she be excited for her friend who has
just gotten a catch and is happily planning her wedding?
What do you guys think? What would you
do if you were my friend? Have you ever been in that situation? What did
you do?
Let’s discuss!
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